Dating Violence

As teens go through their ups and downs, they think that violence is far away from their relationships. Little do they know their is a dark side to their drama. Alot of teens go through the same abuse that adults go through that are in abusive relationships. Sexual abuse is very common among teens. About two out of five teens admit they experience rape or attempted rape since the age of 13. Statistics say that more than a third of the woman have experienced unwanted sex when dating. This pattern starts when a student is in seventh and tenth grade. It's not only common for a student to experience sexual violence when dating. Physical and emotional violence come into play.

Child Abuse leads to Teen Violence

If a child is abused when very young, this can lead to (and usually does), emotional or physical harm. To see a child go through physical or sexual abuse is just devastating. Children are most impressionable at the approximate age of 10 to 12. Sexual or any type of physical abuse is a very serious offense. It isn't always easy to spot children who are affected by this. Neglecting a child is the most common type of child abuse.

If a person abuses a defenseless child, it shows they are a coward. They can't find any other way to feel superior or feel in control. It's hard to believe that this even happens. The worst the abuse the more difficult it is to believe. After a child has been abused, this leads to them having severe pshycological effects. This in turn leads to teen violence.

Gang Violence

Today there is alot of teen violence. It comes into play when a teenager is dating a person who displays a bad temper and is a very violent person. Alot of times teens will experience violence not only in a dating manner but in a school setting. Violence is displayed everyday in the school setting. A child will display great depression from all of the violence. Alot of student don't think straight and will carry weapons to school. Depression is a leading cause of students threatening another student or even a teacher. The student becomes very violent.

Another type of violence displayed in the school setting is "gang violence". The involvement in these gangs cause a person to become very violent and will sometimes kill another person. A child which displays this form of violence usually has an outcome of being incarcerated.

Steps to report an incident at school

1. Put the incident in writing
2. Speak to your child's instructor
3. Speak to an administrator and give him a written report of the incident
4. Ask for a formal meeting
5. When attending the meeting bring your written report and discuss situation
6. Discuss why these things are happening and take alot of notes
7. Find out how you and what avenues to take with the administration
8. Be exact about wanting a time frame
9. Get a written report of what corresponds at your meeting
10. Check up as to what has happened after the meeting
11. Not only meet with administration at school go to the superintendent of schools
12. Again, check up with the schools accountability
13. Don't give up, call the police, go to the press, do whatever it takes, the school won't favor this
14. If all of these steps don't get you anywhere, the last resort is to change your childs school. You are entitled to do so.

teenage sexual violence

Many teens go through alot of different things that bring on abusive relationships. There is a bad side to all of their social drama, which leads to violence. Many go through the same drama which some adults go though, such as physical abuse, emotional abuse and possibly sexual abuse. Some go through sexual abuse which starts from dating. Statistics show that two out of five female students say they go through some type of sexual abuse or attempted rape since the age of 15. This type of sexual abuse started from dating. It's unfortunate but this type of sexual abuse started at a very young age. Statistics show that two in every ninth and tenths graders experience some type of sexual violence in dating. Not only is sexual violence experienced in dating but studies show that many just experience violence which doesn't involve sex.

Parents Fight, Children Suffer

True, conflict is part of every marriage, good or bad. In some marriages, husband-wife differences are not major, or frequent, or the source of volatile anger. Some couples even use conflict constructively, to solve problems, grow closer, build their relationship.

Too often, however, conflict leads us down a destructive path, to anger, to bitterness, or to actual physical violence. When this happens, the price is often high not only for the husband and wife but for their children also. A great deal of research clearly shows that when parents fight, children suffer. In fact, if the aggression that flies between the couple is sever, half of the children will later show serious behavior problems. Witnessing parental violence can lead to consequences for the child that are as serious as if the violence were directed toward the child!

The Home as a Hitting Place

In recent years, research aimed at trying to better understand and control aggression has gone beyond the study of perpetrators and victims to examine the locations in which aggression occurs. Where are crimes committed? Do different locations present different opportunities for aggression and even different outcomes?

Home is one of America's favorite hitting places. It is an opportune ground for small slights and major insults, where grudges can quietly smolder and violently flare, a private arena in which a self-appointed family dictator may take command, a tavern of sorts in which excessive drinking and lowered restraint can see a stage for violence, and a sheltered island in which aggression can let loose with little fear of punishment. It is also a physical structure and space often jointly occupied by potential aggressors and (literally) near-at-hand targets.

Given all these aggression-promoting qualities, it is no wonder that more than seventy eight percent of the homicides in which offender and victim were from the same family take place at home.

THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE

A child is a products of their environment. Children watch everything that is going on in a household. It may be toward other people and not directing to their self. There are times when a child is abandoned or is just plainly getting physically abused. Some children are brought up in really rough neighborhoods, being exposed to violence on the streets and just being exposed to verbal violence. Alot of abusive parents were either abused as children or have experienced some form of sexual abuse. Abuse goes from one generation to the next. That's why it's so important to try to break the cycle. It's not an easy task. It takes alot of strength but it is possible.

The cycle of violence has three stages:
Escalation
The battery episode
The honeymoon

ESCALATION: Demanding, edgy, jealous, explosive, verbally abusive
THE BATTERY EPISODE: Anger, loss of control, rage physical violence
THE HONEYMOON: Gifts, apology, tender words, sorrow, promises

This is typical for any abuse relationship.




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BULLYING AT SCHOOL

Bullying is a problem that happens all the time in school. It is a form of harassment. This bullying happens through not only verbal attacks but physically. A child can be ignored or rumors spread, etc. A person who bullies is know to need to feel overpowering, so they will go by doing this through aggression and attaching others who are most vulnerable. Most known bullies become less popular in school and are very likely to become criminals. Two out of 6 children are bullied during their time at school. Every Eight minutes a child will find that they are being bullied at school. Only 30% of the time teacher's will get involved when a student is being bullied. Needless to say, it is a huge problem, which starts at middle school level. The students being bullied suffer from it terribly. Most of the time, schools do not take it seriously and students will need to undergo pshycological counseling.

There are few things you can do to avoid your child being bullied. The best way is to walk away and teach your child to make like it doesn't bother him/her. It's important to teach your child not to confront the aggressor. Have them talk to the school guidance counselor, they seem to always assist in this matter.

TV VIOLENCE

It's very important to keep the TV out of the child's bedroom. It's important for you to keep close attention to what your child watches on TV and what video games your child plays. You shouldn't expose your child until the age of 8 to any violent content in entertainment. Keeping the TV in an area where all the family will view it is important so the family can view it together. There is no reason for the TV to be viewed before school and turn it off at an appropriate time before bed. It's important to view TV shows with your child, be involved with them. Talk about the content your watching and how it affects your everyday living. Be sure to be at their age level.

Things to do about internet preditars

Talk to your child about the important facts about social networking. Being open and communicating with your child is key. Talk about how important it is to be careful about comments being made by possible predators. Be very careful about how you talk to your child, be respectful toward their feelings. Review your child's list of contacts and friends, let them tell you the names of these friends. Pay close attention to how secretive your child may be and if he/she closes out of the computer when you step into the room. Check out your child's profile and make sure it's appropriate. Predator's take interest in inappropriate detailed profiles. If you feel your child is a target, delete their profile and start another for them. Web-cams do nothing but bring trouble. There is software to install into computers to monitor your child's activities on the computer.

Facts on internet predators

Statistics show that predators advance 2 out of every 6 kids. Myspace and Facebook are very common sites that predators contact through networking. The intentions of the predators are to entice children for the means of child pornography or as to actually force the kids into sex. Common ages for victims are 11 to 16 years of age.
It is very important for parents to put on parental blocks on computers to ensure that predators can not contact victims. This enables any contact. Many kids are lonely and don’t have many friends off the computer, they tend to search for love and look for it online. Many children are dealing with an adult and think it’s another child their own age. Children very quite and seem to be hiding something, are usually hiding something. There very underhanded about what goes on, on the internet. It’s very common victims have a very sheltered life with no extra curricular activities other than the internet. Victims tend to get all types of gifts, to be worked by their predator.